One of the biggest disservices you can do to yourself is comparing yourself to others. It is just a one-way ticket into a self-induced torture chamber, especially when you are depressed. Many of our feelings of satisfaction or dissatisfaction have their roots in how we compare ourselves to others.
When we compare ourselves to those who have more, look better, or do more, we feel bad. When we compare ourselves to those who have less, we tend to feel grateful. Even though the truth is we have exactly the same life, either way, our feelings about our life can vary tremendously based on whom we compare yourself with.
People who are satisfied appreciate what they have in life and don’t worry about how it compares to what others have. Valuing what you have over what you do not have or cannot have led to greater happiness. Why remind yourself of the things in life you don’t have when you could remind yourself of what you do have?
Studies show that people who have the most are just as likely to be happy and satisfied as those who have the least. People who like what they have, however, are twice as likely to be happy as those who have the most.
The moral of the story? Be grateful for who you are and what you have.